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My budget last week took the gloves off and gave me a serious punch in the mouth. I’m bleeding and a bit dazed, but I know there is still some fight left in me….I hope. Ohh, where to start? It amazes how the saying “when it rains…it sucks!” seems so true at times. Well here you go,I’m gonna to lay the boys on the table for public judgement!  

1. The third week of October is apparently our week for eating dinners out. Sunday we took my wife’s mother out just to enjoy her company and thank her for watching our daughter five days a week for free (I figure that’s worth tossing some Thai food her way every once in a while). Monday we I needed to pick up my vehicle (I’ll get to that one in a minute!) so that lead to another dinner out. Though this time we were hooked up with a $10 off online coupon so that covered the beer. Tuesday, my favorite aunt was in town for a business conference so once again we headed downtown to catch up over some chow. Friday we find ourselves at a rehearsal dinner for a friend’s wedding – true, the dinner is free but the baby’s new outfit necessary for flower girl duty…well that’s not so free! I consider this a dinner related expense.
2. Saturday gets pricey downtown again even with our crazy hookups! Due to the above mentioned wedding we spent the weekend in a downtown hotel suite. True we only live 30 minutes from downtown but with the baby and a lot to do we decided to get a place to stay in the city. With my wife’s crazy hotel hookups (she works in sales in the hotel business so she knows everybody that matters) we got the room for less than a third of the regular price. And since I worked my crappy second “get out of debt” job as a valet at this same high-end hotel the $38 per night parking fee only cost me a smile and a couple fist-bumps with the ex-coworkers.
3. The crazy hookups continued to ease the pain through the weekend but we still dropped some dough.  Saturday my hot little sales-lady wife pulls some more strings and we find ourselves at the Zoo with $30 worth of free passes. Well free that is if you exclude the $5.00 parking, the $12.00 snack and the $7.00 Starbuck’s drive-by on the way there. I guess that’s the cost of some beautiful moments with my little girl. And you can’t buy that at your local Wal-Mart!
4. The wedding Saturday night had no official cover charge. Dinner was provided by our hosts but there was a gift purchase involved so in a way there was a cover charge. No big deal though, dinner was good and it was all so terribly romantic that it probably would have induced vomiting if any outsiders were watching. (take a moment here and wipe your eyes – I know, I’m a little choked up as well).
5. Here was our big budget killer this week! I had the pleasure of forking over the money to replace the engine in my SUV.  This expense stung like hell but the good news is since I got such a sweet deal on the car (once again Viny Financio and his fist full $100’s talked louder than the seller’s asking price) I was still right at Blue Book value even after we dropped in the new engine. Of course this was due to me having a very good friend that does this sort of stuff for a living so instead of laying out the estimated $6,800 I was in it less than $4k I’m glad we were able to cover all this with cash from our emergency fund because they don’t accept credit cards for homie-hookups! And thanks to another good friend I also managed to get by without needing to rent another PT Cruiser/death Trap.

So all-in-all this week cost us right around $4,500 not including our regular living expenses! Things did work out though, and it helped that October is double a Magic Month for us. In a way though I still feel sort of like I was accidentally kicked it in the groin by my own friends and my own possessions but we’re still rolling FinancialFreakShow debt free and we’ll keep fighting but I promise you Vinny Financio will keep fighting dirty!

While cruising around twitter I came across a guy cruising around Detriot delivering pizzas in an attempt to cruise his way out of $101,000 in debt. To keep himself sane while he’s working deliverawaydebt updates his loyal followers on how his pizza delivery world.

With tweets like his “stiffy alerts” (when folks don’t tip him) and various other customer updates I had to learn more about Jeff and his leased Hummer H3 drivin’pizza delivery story. Actual tweets from deliverawaydebt:

4/14-Delivered to the local Moose Club. I deliver to their cook every friday night. I walk in and shout JIMMY! He shouts JEFF! back. Nice

0/21 STIFFED stupid lazy lady wouldn’t get off her big butt to sign the credit card slip. Had her kid walk it 2 feet to her- LAZY!!

3/18-1/31 Thanks for the buck! I loved climbing the 75 stairs to get to you door. Hope you don’t get any bbq sauce on you, 20 wings

STIFFY ALERT!! 0/13 Guy looked like a drug dealer. Had on a watch that looked worth $10 grand plus. Prob rhinestones from the be-dazzler kit

First the Lions win today and then my first run is a 5 dollar tip. What a day!

STIFFY ALERT-lady was singing the song from Dora the Explorer. I even finished the song for her and she still stiffed me. Guess I need vocal lessons

2/13- dude was in a smoking jacket. Must’a been expecting a playboy bunny. Sorry man no dice.

$62 on 13. Made more on Sunday than Friday again. Time to go home and go to bed 5am is just around the corner

4/16-0/12.96 STIFFY ALERT yeah she counted out the 96 cents for me. Thanks lady I guess it’s back to the Coinstar machine later.

This guy is killing it for all the right reasons! – enjoy this post written by the legend himself…

Everyone who’s working on paying down their debt has a specific moment they decide to start the long and painfully journey.  For my wife and me it was a couple of months after returning from an overseas assignment in China.

In February 2007 we had taken an excellent promotion which would fast track my career and put the money we needed into our pockets so we could pay off our debt.  At this point we still had not combined our money; we’d been married about 6 months.  She was working and paying for her car, credit card, and her other bills.  I was paying all of my bills, the house, and entertainment for us.  We were two people with proportional amounts of debt given our separate incomes.  We never sat down and talked about money, we never took the time to see the totals of our debt.  I was making good money and all the bills were being paid, so there must not have been a problem.  Budget, not us we didn’t need one.  Budgets are for poor people who don’t make as much money as we do.  The new job was going to take care of the debt anyway, right?  Our thought was once the normal bills were paid everything left over would be applied directly to our debt. 

We returned to the US in March 2008.  I decided I didn’t like the job and was not the right person for the position.  Add on the fact that we really didn’t like the location.  We were 2 of 20 foreigners living among 3.8 million Chinese.  I took a demotion and returned to my old job.  Now remember the new job was going to pay off the debt we had.  Upon our return we had made zero progress on paying down the debt, wasting a whole year of opportunity.   The next major problem was that we loss of the $1,950 per month by working outside the USA.  Upon returning all overtime was eliminated, the $2,000 a month I received before the trip was now gone.  We had a deficit of almost $2,000 per month to figure out how to cover. 

My wife worked in Media Planning (marketing) before our move to China.  She could go back to work to make up our money shortage, but we also found out we were pregnant for the second time.  Day care for a young toddler and a newborn would cost us $1800 per month, wiping out any money my wife could have made.  Back to the drawing board we went.  I’d been listening to Dave Ramsey for a couple of weeks when I heard him say that delivering pizzas was a great way to make extra income.  After talking it over with my wife, we decided that I would make the sacrifice and take on a second job.  I applied and was accepted to a new pizza joint down the street.  I started delivering in May 2008. 

In January 2009, I drafted our first budget.  Following Ramsey’s advice and after reading a ton on the subject of budgeting, I was able to put everything on paper and see how the money moved in and out of our hands.  We did this for a few months and felt that we were in control but the debt wasn’t going down.  There had to be a better way.  In April 2009, my wife politely suggested we seek out some professional help (she’d been asking to do this for quite awhile, but I was the roadblock to making it happen.)  Yep, I am definitely one of those people who never ask for help.  It’s a good thing my wife knows this and stepped in to straighten me out. 

I looked for a Financial Coach on the Dave Ramsey’s website under the Endorsed Local Providers section (ELP), and found one that was in my area.  With one call to the ELP we had an appointment set up for the next week.  After our initial counseling session my wife and I were excited to get started.  We drafted a better budget and started to use it.  Two weeks later we meet with our Financial Coach and were able to fine tune it and put his system into practice.

We had a total of 3 coaching sessions and after a little over 4 months after starting our plan we had paid off over $13,000 on our debt.  Wow, looking back this was the single most valuable step we’ve taken in our quest to eliminate debt.  Now 100% of the money generated through delivering pizza is applied to our debt.  We’ve paid off both vehicles and use that extra $700 per month to eliminate the debt.  We’ve also been able to pay off another credit card giving us another $100 per month.  That totals to around $2,000 per month including the pizza money that we put toward the debt. 

My wife and started with $101,000 to eliminate.  That’s including our second mortgage and all personal, credit card, and student loan debt.  We finally feel like we are making headway, our debt free date is Oct 2011.  This will be a long in difficult road, but having a plan and working it is the only way we will get there.  Being away from my family at night is one of most difficult things I’ve had to do.  When I look into my kids eyes though, I know it will be worth it.  They will have completely funded college accounts, they will have parents who don’t argue about money, and they will learn about money at an early age and will have their Father around to play with and love them.  It’s tough, but nothing in life that really matters is easy. 

If you’re interested in reading about the day in the life of a pizza delivery driver, follow me on Twitter at @deliverawaydebt.  I tweet about the crazy things that happen during my shifts. I’ve also started a blog to write about all the fun my family is having paying off debt.  http://deliverawaydebt.com/

Thanks to FinancialFreakShow for allowing me to share my story with you

 Jeff Kosola

-post written by Jeff Kosola - Thanks Jeff, your an inspiration!

It’s funny how people will sometimes ask a question of you then argue with the answer you give. This blog has brought out the financial questions from people around me and sometimes people don’t want to actually hear the answer to the question. Yesterday one such question started a discussion with a friend of mine that went around in circles for what seemed like a month. Then we abruptly came to an agreement and this quote sums up the feelings around that moment of truth…

 Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you’re wrong. – unknown

 Luckily I wasn’t the one having this realization, at least not this time anyway. The question that sparked the chat was basically this: “how do you get out and stay out of the cycle of car debt?” For myself I saw a pretty straight forward answer (as most personal finance questions are in my opinion). The idea is to save up enough money to pay cash for your next car…that’s it, it’s that simple. The theory itself is simple but getting it done takes some work. We can discuss endlessly the different techniques of how you might pull that off (and I may sometime just not right now).

 My friend’s realization described above was sparked when I asked him the following question:

If you can afford make the payments why can’t you afford to save for it, especially a purchase you can plan ahead for?

Once this question was posed the conversation slammed to a halt faster than a school bus at the train tracks. He looked at me and said I guess you have a point. Things really are that simple. If you have some time to plan for the expenses all you need to do is plan for the expense. True, it’s not much fun and it sure isn’t very sexy but it works. That’s how most of our grandparents bought stuff like cars. They saved up for things and when they had the money they would make the purchase. So what’s different now? Try: marketing, peer pressure, greed, impatience, a lack of discipline, aside from those roadblocks (especially the lack of discipline one) this idea pretty much works the same as it did before.

I doubt our conversation will change the way he operates his finances moving forward but at least the question was recognized and there may be that little twinge of guilt each time he unnecessarily spends on credit. True this may not ruin his life but at least he can now add one more option to his financial text book in his head.

So I now pose the question to my readers:

If you can afford make the payments why can’t you afford to save for it, especially a purchase you can plan ahead for?

Go ahead you can post your excuses in the comment section.

Who cares if your coworker doesn’t like your car? Who cares if they laugh at your hatchback with the bald and flat spare tire. Who cares if you iPod doesn’t have the bitchin’ touch screen? Who cares if you’re still trying to rock last year’s sunglasses? Do you really care what they think about your possessions? Who really cares about your money? Everybody always says they don’t but seriously do you? These feelings are real though and they do have an effect on how we often live our lives. Many people destroy their financial plans (if they actually have one) by making buying decisions based on the judgments of others instead of what’s best for themselves and their family. Don’t get me wrong here I’m all for buying tons of stuff, even stuff you don’t really need, that’s how I made a mess of my finances in the first place.

I got rid of a lot of stuff when I decided to adjust my financial circumstances. A funny thing happened though when I began to do that. I really didn’t care at that point what people thought about the stuff I had anymore. It was good for me in many ways. Now I sort of wear the fact that I haven’t overspent my means as a badge of honor. I love telling people I sold my BMW and bought a Chevy and why we decided to go the National Park instead of Mexico for vacation. Now that we’ve made so much progress in our financial lives the people that are actually important to us and care for us brag about what we’ve done and to that I say “Who really cares about my money anyway?”

So go ahead and mock me (or more likely just think it…wimp) then shut up and get back to work so you make some more money to hopefully cover that ridiculous car payment again next month. I love it when broke people tell I’m wrong about money – thanks for more motivation!

I dropped my SUV off at a local shop this afternoon to get some work done. This relatively normal part of life reminded me once again why I strive so hard to take good care of my finances. The thought of dropping some money into one of our vehicles was not what triggered these thoughts we’re okay in that department…now. What actually triggered these thoughts was strapping my beautiful 18 month old daughter’s car seat into a rental car that I would never, ever, ever, ever, ever pick to own myself. This lovely little piece of scrap metal would likely get totaled if it hit a curb not to mention what would happen in if I was unfortunate enough to find myself ramming head on into another car with some actual weight behind it.

So what does driving this piece of rented junk have to do with personal finance? Well it reminded me that control of your money gives you options that you might not otherwise have. It showed me that one of the fruits of my hard work is the ability to drive a safe, reliable and not to mention comfortable, PT Cruiser smashing 4×4 SUV. True this option may not be everybody’s preference but after seeing my little girl stare at me through the window of a paper thin rented rear door as we prepared to jump into rush hour traffic I remembered why money and the options it creates are important to me. If I keep working hard and managing my money well, hopefully I will have the option to never, ever, ever, ever have to own this little toy car for more than a day or two and even then it would be still be an option.

Money gives you options for cool things like schools, cars, health care, the option to leave a job, the neighborhood your family lives in, what kind of beer to drink, options how you spend your time, and more options to help those around you (broke people can’t help poor people much). When you’re in debt your choices may be greatly limited do to the burden the debt brings into your life. Sorry but I’m willing to spend some money on things that are truly important to me and I’m glad I now have more of those options. So I’ll continue to work to keep my options open for many reasons. Please excuse me now…I have a rented PT Cruiser to jump

So if you had no debt and a stash of money in the bank what options would you take advantage of? Here’s one of mine. 

It’s hard to dodge all the input and influence of people around you when you’re itching to drop some cash on a purchase (especially a big purchase). It’s even more difficult to ignore the marketing and sales pitches that come at you constantly telling you what normal people are doing with their money and how crazy you’d be to not take advantage of the same great offers.

Just ask any car dealer or mortgage broker (or sadly enough many politicians) how much they think you can afford and I bet they tell you it’s more than you thought you could. Case-in-point – Cash for Clunkers program and Adjustable rate mortgages. Both of these programs were designed to quickly and painlessly separate the consumer from their hard earned money. Though these deals sound like they’re out there to benefit the consumer that it really depends on if the consumer is signing up for deal that’s truly in their best interest considering their own situation. Cash for Clunkers is especially financially lethal because it has now encouraged over a million people to close their eyes to common sense and invest in a guaranteed depreciating asset while grabbing their share of the 3-billion dollar* government windfall. According to Kiplinger’s Magazine it’s estimated a new car looses an average of 20% of it’s value the day it’s purchased. That means for example a $40,000 Lexus ES300 you purchase on Saturday will only be worth $32,000 on Sunday – and this doesn’t even come close to the 65% loss in value over the next 5 years bringing your value down to a pathetic $14,000. Money guy Dave Ramsey has it right when he says “the worst car accidents happen on the showroom floor.”

I’m all for dropping some cash on your ride but do it because it makes sense for you and your family not because they can’t shut up about it on the news. Remember always, always, always think long term when making financial decisions and if somebody’s telling you it’s too good of a deal to pass up they may be right but make sure you’re the one making that call not them.    

Oh well, at least one good thing came out of this Cash for Clunkers program…there are now a lot less warn out cars on the road polluting our precious environment with their filthy disgusting “Election ’08” bumper stickers.

So I discovered there’s an advantage to being so far upside down in your SUV that you can’t easily sell it to get out from under the payment – I know that sounds hard to believe but I promise I will reveal it to you later in the post. 

When we began my war on our debts the largest debt (aside from our house) was my sexy black Chevy SUV. We were upside down by over $8,000! So in our plan to remove debt from our lives we struggled with this particular one. At the time I owed just over $21,000 on the car but market value was closer to $13,000 and our payment, not including insurance, was $496.71 a month (and to think I got a “good deal” when I bought it!)

We had several discussions about how to deal with this particular issue. Do we pay this bill down first so we can sell it to break even? Though at the same time we’d need to save up some money to buy something else. Do we try to borrow $10,000? $8,000 for the difference + $2,000 to buy another cheap car. My thought was I’d rather owe $10,000 than $21,000. This was a tough dilemma for me because I didn’t want to borrow more money but I did want to free us from this payment so we could put the money towards more important things. The first thing we did was develop a plan to work towards paying off our other debts. True, this did nothing to mitigate the balance of the SUV but it did free up some cash each month and relieved some of the stress of trying to make the $500 payment.

We decided for now the best thing to do was to create more income to help move things along faster. It was time to rely on a classic surefire way to make money that my dad taught me some time ago. You may have heard of this technique, I call it work.

So I made a few calls and found a second job….a crappy job, but a job none the less. Yes, working two jobs sucks, yes 14-20 hour work days suck, yes not coming home to my wife and daughter several nights a week every single week sucks, but we knew it was temporary and we knew in the long run it would be worth the sacrifice. That put extra cash in our pockets by the end of that next week.  True this wasn’t life changing money but when it was added to the money we were already working with it made a difference.  After a couple months of sucking it up the progress became noticeable. With a strict budget in place I was able to deposit the paychecks and send 100% of it off to the next debt on the list. Not to mention the added benefit of working so much I didn’t have any time to spend much money.  What would happen if you made an extra $1000 a month, next month? Would you piss it away or you make real life changing progress? 

As promised above I’ll now reveal the advantage of being so far upside down in your SUV that you can’t easily sell it. Here you go:
-It gives you a nice cozy place to sleep at night while you’re busting butt to clean up your financial messes and take better care of you family!

 So what have you sacrificed lately for your family? I’m not talking about how you skipped your double mocha last week at “4-bucks” I’m talking about sacrifices you made that may lead to changes lasting generations.