Having a credit card to fall back on can dissuade you from building a proper emergency fund. I think this happens for a couple reasons. First, with credit you already have a safety net in place. That’s actually one of the reasons many people get credit cards in the first place. Though this can quickly blow up in your face because you could be taking on debt at the exact time it gets most difficult to pay it back. It amazes me how many people grab their credit cards right after a job loss and began using high interest cash advances for everyday life at the exact worse time to be borrowing money. I think having the cards as a safety net allows people to feel like they’re covered so the urgency to save really isn’t there.

Second, I think another reason people don’t build emergency savings when they use cards is because they’re constantly working to clear the debts. Instead of making savings a priority they make keeping up with the card balances a priority. The more debt they have on their cards the less they have available to save and the more likely they’ll need the cards to cover their butts again and so the cycle continues.  

At some point if you want to go with out credit cards you need to break the cycle of spending instead of saving. I personally stashed away a little dough to use for future “emergencies” then stopped using the cards. Once I stopped using the cards and had some real money in the bank to fall back on all I really had to do was eliminate the balances and at that point I was done with the credit card cycle. I had no use for them anymore. I now have an emergency fund with more money available to me than I ever had available on my credit cards…oh and it’s earning interest too.

The good news is Mark has decided, for the first time ever, to start saving. He’s now quickly building an emergency fund since this’ll be his only safety net going forward. It looks like with a little encouragement and some discipline our buddy Mark won’t be “financially retarded” too much longer…at least that’s the plan.

So what’s your plan for dealing with credit cards, do you want them gone, do you really need them around? Let me know how you feel about this.

1. The third week of October is apparently our week for eating dinners out. Sunday we took my wife’s mother out just to enjoy her company and thank her for watching our daughter five days a week for free (I figure that’s worth tossing some Thai food her way every once in a while). Monday we I needed to pick up my vehicle (I’ll get to that one in a minute!) so that lead to another dinner out. Though this time we were hooked up with a $10 off online coupon so that covered the beer. Tuesday, my favorite aunt was in town for a business conference so once again we headed downtown to catch up over some chow. Friday we find ourselves at a rehearsal dinner for a friend’s wedding – true, the dinner is free but the baby’s new outfit necessary for flower girl duty…well that’s not so free! I consider this a dinner related expense.
2. Saturday gets pricey downtown again even with our crazy hookups! Due to the above mentioned wedding we spent the weekend in a downtown hotel suite. True we only live 30 minutes from downtown but with the baby and a lot to do we decided to get a place to stay in the city. With my wife’s crazy hotel hookups (she works in sales in the hotel business so she knows everybody that matters) we got the room for less than a third of the regular price. And since I worked my crappy second “get out of debt” job as a valet at this same high-end hotel the $38 per night parking fee only cost me a smile and a couple fist-bumps with the ex-coworkers.
3. The crazy hookups continued to ease the pain through the weekend but we still dropped some dough.  Saturday my hot little sales-lady wife pulls some more strings and we find ourselves at the Zoo with $30 worth of free passes. Well free that is if you exclude the $5.00 parking, the $12.00 snack and the $7.00 Starbuck’s drive-by on the way there. I guess that’s the cost of some beautiful moments with my little girl. And you can’t buy that at your local Wal-Mart!
4. The wedding Saturday night had no official cover charge. Dinner was provided by our hosts but there was a gift purchase involved so in a way there was a cover charge. No big deal though, dinner was good and it was all so terribly romantic that it probably would have induced vomiting if any outsiders were watching. (take a moment here and wipe your eyes – I know, I’m a little choked up as well).
5. Here was our big budget killer this week! I had the pleasure of forking over the money to replace the engine in my SUV.  This expense stung like hell but the good news is since I got such a sweet deal on the car (once again Viny Financio and his fist full $100’s talked louder than the seller’s asking price) I was still right at Blue Book value even after we dropped in the new engine. Of course this was due to me having a very good friend that does this sort of stuff for a living so instead of laying out the estimated $6,800 I was in it less than $4k I’m glad we were able to cover all this with cash from our emergency fund because they don’t accept credit cards for homie-hookups! And thanks to another good friend I also managed to get by without needing to rent another PT Cruiser/death Trap.

So all-in-all this week cost us right around $4,500 not including our regular living expenses! Things did work out though, and it helped that October is double a Magic Month for us. In a way though I still feel sort of like I was accidentally kicked it in the groin by my own friends and my own possessions but we’re still rolling FinancialFreakShow debt free and we’ll keep fighting but I promise you Vinny Financio will keep fighting dirty!

Enjoy the following guest post – and when you get to the part about “a very wise man” and “single-handedly did something Superman and an army of super heroes couldn’t have done” remember that me she’s talking about- oh yeah!

‘Deployment money” a military wife’s favorite words. Visions of Coach Bags and spa trips dance through her head while trying to fight back the tears as her husband boards the plane. We all do it, yet most of us won’t admit it. This time though I’m taking this deployment to a whole new level. I’m on a mission to go down in the military spouse hall of fame as the one who passed the Coach bags in the Exchange and with a disdainful smirk I head to the children’s section for the half priced shoes. Ever notice they put those gorgeous bags right in the front walkway of the store? I am on the road to paying off all of our debt. All of it, all $125,000 in credit cards, car loans, and the boat. Our awesome boat – yup, the one we can’t afford to put gas in.

Thank you to a very wise man who, in a 20 minute conversation, single-handedly did something Superman and an army of super heroes couldn’t have done. Got me (of my own free will no less) to pull every credit card out of my wallet, wrap them pretty in a rubber band and throw them in a drawer I affectionately call the “junk drawer.” Fitting name huh? I then proceeded to break the news to my husband. We sat down and had what was probably the most open and honest discussion about our finances in almost nine years of marriage. We mapped out a plan TOGETHER, figured out where we could cut back, then celebrated… by eating our first dinner at home in a long time! (a personal apology to all Olive Garden shareholders).

Using my husband’s first “deployment money” that came in from a recent short trip, I paid off the lowest balance debt. Seeing that first zero was almost as exciting as a new pair of shoes. The second zero balance I have achieved almost made me… well you get it.

It’s a game now. I created a sweet little excel spreadsheet staying true to my “excel goddess” nickname that auto-calculates our totals, gives me the percentage paid down on each debt and the total percentage of debt paid off to date. Are you ready for this? 10.24% in 2 weeks. TWO WEEKS!! That’s about $12,000 of worry, stress and interest we’ll never have to pay on again!! He leaves again in a few weeks for 6 months this time. And I will sit in my office every day and secretly curse all of the women telling stories of the money they spent the past weekends on shoes, clothes and manicures, and I think of all the things our family can do with our money when he comes home. Things like a family vacation paid for with actual money. All out of our bank account instead of on credit cards. Amazing.

I have a feeling the next 6 months is going to change the rest of their lives. So do you think she can pull it off? Do you think somebody’s going to get hurt if they stand in her way?

Please take a second and add an encouraging comment.

With tweets like his “stiffy alerts” (when folks don’t tip him) and various other customer updates I had to learn more about Jeff and his leased Hummer H3 drivin’pizza delivery story. Actual tweets from deliverawaydebt:

4/14-Delivered to the local Moose Club. I deliver to their cook every friday night. I walk in and shout JIMMY! He shouts JEFF! back. Nice

0/21 STIFFED stupid lazy lady wouldn’t get off her big butt to sign the credit card slip. Had her kid walk it 2 feet to her- LAZY!!

3/18-1/31 Thanks for the buck! I loved climbing the 75 stairs to get to you door. Hope you don’t get any bbq sauce on you, 20 wings

STIFFY ALERT!! 0/13 Guy looked like a drug dealer. Had on a watch that looked worth $10 grand plus. Prob rhinestones from the be-dazzler kit

First the Lions win today and then my first run is a 5 dollar tip. What a day!

STIFFY ALERT-lady was singing the song from Dora the Explorer. I even finished the song for her and she still stiffed me. Guess I need vocal lessons

2/13- dude was in a smoking jacket. Must’a been expecting a playboy bunny. Sorry man no dice.

$62 on 13. Made more on Sunday than Friday again. Time to go home and go to bed 5am is just around the corner

4/16-0/12.96 STIFFY ALERT yeah she counted out the 96 cents for me. Thanks lady I guess it’s back to the Coinstar machine later.

This guy is killing it for all the right reasons! – enjoy this post written by the legend himself…

Everyone who’s working on paying down their debt has a specific moment they decide to start the long and painfully journey.  For my wife and me it was a couple of months after returning from an overseas assignment in China.

In February 2007 we had taken an excellent promotion which would fast track my career and put the money we needed into our pockets so we could pay off our debt.  At this point we still had not combined our money; we’d been married about 6 months.  She was working and paying for her car, credit card, and her other bills.  I was paying all of my bills, the house, and entertainment for us.  We were two people with proportional amounts of debt given our separate incomes.  We never sat down and talked about money, we never took the time to see the totals of our debt.  I was making good money and all the bills were being paid, so there must not have been a problem.  Budget, not us we didn’t need one.  Budgets are for poor people who don’t make as much money as we do.  The new job was going to take care of the debt anyway, right?  Our thought was once the normal bills were paid everything left over would be applied directly to our debt. 

We returned to the US in March 2008.  I decided I didn’t like the job and was not the right person for the position.  Add on the fact that we really didn’t like the location.  We were 2 of 20 foreigners living among 3.8 million Chinese.  I took a demotion and returned to my old job.  Now remember the new job was going to pay off the debt we had.  Upon our return we had made zero progress on paying down the debt, wasting a whole year of opportunity.   The next major problem was that we loss of the $1,950 per month by working outside the USA.  Upon returning all overtime was eliminated, the $2,000 a month I received before the trip was now gone.  We had a deficit of almost $2,000 per month to figure out how to cover. 

My wife worked in Media Planning (marketing) before our move to China.  She could go back to work to make up our money shortage, but we also found out we were pregnant for the second time.  Day care for a young toddler and a newborn would cost us $1800 per month, wiping out any money my wife could have made.  Back to the drawing board we went.  I’d been listening to Dave Ramsey for a couple of weeks when I heard him say that delivering pizzas was a great way to make extra income.  After talking it over with my wife, we decided that I would make the sacrifice and take on a second job.  I applied and was accepted to a new pizza joint down the street.  I started delivering in May 2008. 

In January 2009, I drafted our first budget.  Following Ramsey’s advice and after reading a ton on the subject of budgeting, I was able to put everything on paper and see how the money moved in and out of our hands.  We did this for a few months and felt that we were in control but the debt wasn’t going down.  There had to be a better way.  In April 2009, my wife politely suggested we seek out some professional help (she’d been asking to do this for quite awhile, but I was the roadblock to making it happen.)  Yep, I am definitely one of those people who never ask for help.  It’s a good thing my wife knows this and stepped in to straighten me out. 

I looked for a Financial Coach on the Dave Ramsey’s website under the Endorsed Local Providers section (ELP), and found one that was in my area.  With one call to the ELP we had an appointment set up for the next week.  After our initial counseling session my wife and I were excited to get started.  We drafted a better budget and started to use it.  Two weeks later we meet with our Financial Coach and were able to fine tune it and put his system into practice.

We had a total of 3 coaching sessions and after a little over 4 months after starting our plan we had paid off over $13,000 on our debt.  Wow, looking back this was the single most valuable step we’ve taken in our quest to eliminate debt.  Now 100% of the money generated through delivering pizza is applied to our debt.  We’ve paid off both vehicles and use that extra $700 per month to eliminate the debt.  We’ve also been able to pay off another credit card giving us another $100 per month.  That totals to around $2,000 per month including the pizza money that we put toward the debt. 

My wife and started with $101,000 to eliminate.  That’s including our second mortgage and all personal, credit card, and student loan debt.  We finally feel like we are making headway, our debt free date is Oct 2011.  This will be a long in difficult road, but having a plan and working it is the only way we will get there.  Being away from my family at night is one of most difficult things I’ve had to do.  When I look into my kids eyes though, I know it will be worth it.  They will have completely funded college accounts, they will have parents who don’t argue about money, and they will learn about money at an early age and will have their Father around to play with and love them.  It’s tough, but nothing in life that really matters is easy. 

If you’re interested in reading about the day in the life of a pizza delivery driver, follow me on Twitter at @deliverawaydebt.  I tweet about the crazy things that happen during my shifts. I’ve also started a blog to write about all the fun my family is having paying off debt.  http://deliverawaydebt.com/

Thanks to FinancialFreakShow for allowing me to share my story with you

 Jeff Kosola

-post written by Jeff Kosola - Thanks Jeff, your an inspiration!