Financial Freak Show

When you’ve got what’s known in the business as a “butt load” of debt, managing it can get tricky. I used to be horrible at this – Actually I wasn’t horrible at it, it was more that I didn’t really do it at all. I was slovenly, unorganized. When I decided it was time to address the issue I would scream obscenities at objects like pens, or various other office supplies. I would punch our hot water heater and throw the cat at the dog (okay, not really, I made that last part up).

To get started I first listed everything I owed in an Excel spreadsheet. It was immensely helpful to have all the info in one place. You could write it down and keep it all in a big fat Black Book of Debt if you prefer. Once I laid it all out most of the time it’s smooth sailing; I would simply just update the balances on the spreadsheets and pretty much leave the rest alone. Every now and again there was an opportunities to move around a balance. Occasionally though I’d have to get all FreakShow budget crazy making and start juggling thousands and thousands of dollars. Often these moments in budget anarchy happen for good reasons though sometimes it was due to events like my serious budget busting week or even better the follow up

During moments like this is felt more like I was trying to de-fuse a movie bomb…”is it the red wire or the blue wire? Three seconds left before the end of my financial world. Which is it Financio, the Red or the Blue?” With beads of sweat rolling down my face I would send online payments off via the inter-web while credit card and checking balances were checked and rechecked all the while hoping I didn’t just vaporize my family’s finances by sending every extra penny we had off the to the enemy. Knowing all too well that in another couple weeks I will once again sit down under intense pressure and attempt to diffuse our personal time bomb where all I can hear over the incessant pounding in my temples is the polite question of our progress from my wife and I lovingly respond with….

Iamtryingtopaythestupidbillsheredoyoumind?! Seriously, do you?!

I was talking to Mark (the proudly self proclaimed Financial Retard) about how he was getting by without using his credit cards over the past few weeks.  He said a funny thing happened when he pulled the cards out of his wallet, for the first time in many years he had the feeling that he needed to save more. As it turns out he was pretty freaked out by the fact that he didn’t have his “debt safety net” to fall back on. Mark was used to always having a $1,000 or so in available credit just in case something popped up. Now that he was no longer carting those cards he was only relying only on the money in his bank account.

Having a credit card to fall back on can dissuade you from building a proper emergency fund. I think this happens for a couple reasons. First, with credit you already have a safety net in place. That’s actually one of the reasons many people get credit cards in the first place. Though this can quickly blow up in your face because you could be taking on debt at the exact time it gets most difficult to pay it back. It amazes me how many people grab their credit cards right after a job loss and began using high interest cash advances for everyday life at the exact worse time to be borrowing money. I think having the cards as a safety net allows people to feel like they’re covered so the urgency to save really isn’t there.

Second, I think another reason people don’t build emergency savings when they use cards is because they’re constantly working to clear the debts. Instead of making savings a priority they make keeping up with the card balances a priority. The more debt they have on their cards the less they have available to save and the more likely they’ll need the cards to cover their butts again and so the cycle continues.  

At some point if you want to go with out credit cards you need to break the cycle of spending instead of saving. I personally stashed away a little dough to use for future “emergencies” then stopped using the cards. Once I stopped using the cards and had some real money in the bank to fall back on all I really had to do was eliminate the balances and at that point I was done with the credit card cycle. I had no use for them anymore. I now have an emergency fund with more money available to me than I ever had available on my credit cards…oh and it’s earning interest too.

The good news is Mark has decided, for the first time ever, to start saving. He’s now quickly building an emergency fund since this’ll be his only safety net going forward. It looks like with a little encouragement and some discipline our buddy Mark won’t be “financially retarded” too much longer…at least that’s the plan.

So what’s your plan for dealing with credit cards, do you want them gone, do you really need them around? Let me know how you feel about this.

At what point do you feel mental pain as a result of a purchase (or in the case of married folk physical pain?) How much money can you blow before you feel you need permission so your other half won’t “bring the pain?” If you’re single at what dollar amount do you feel guilty for buying something?

 Since my wife and I are trying to reach some specific financial goals we are kind of strict about any money that we blow. The dollar amount that would trigger my wives fury while we were trying to eliminate our personal debts (I know this may sound insanely low to many of you) was around $25. Do remember though that my wife is a saver by nature and I’m the one that liked to spend. Also remember that I’m talking about spending money that wasn’t in our spending plan – I’m not talking about things like food, gas, needed things around the house, car maintenance etc. – I’m talking about things we hadn’t planned for like a cool $52 sweatshirt, or a $175 replacement for the broken cell phone – you know that sort of stuff.

Now that our debts have been cleared (with help from some learned behaviors like this one) our spending threshold has now been adjusted accordingly. We’re now closer to the $80-$100 range for “free” spending. Now that we’ve worked so hard to always discuss and share our finances we usually talk about most things over $50 anyway (note that we talk about it…not fight about it). Hopefully one day with enough hard work and discipline when I surprise my wife with the new Cadillac she wants and the only discussion we’ll have will be where we’re taking it for dinner that night and who gets to drive – now there’s the spending threshold I’m shooting for!

Agreed upon spending limits is where a couple’s shared finances can really help a couple succeed over the long term due to the unavoidable accountability. How’s the saying go? “At some point he’ll have to come home!”

What dollar amount do you feel you should have agreement with your spouse before buying something as to avoid your home turning into a bad Jerry Springer episode?  If you’re single at what dollar amount do you feel you’ve let yourself down buy spending too much?

In my post Money Creates Options I jokingly talked about how I hope to always have enough money that I never need to rent a PT Cruiser again. Well once again having little cash in the bank opened up an unexpected option for us. Last week someone very important to me passed away.

Once I received the news that evening my wife and I decided we needed to travel three states away and we needed to leave that night (and I’m not talking about crossing three of those little East Coast states, I’m talking about crossing three big fat West Coast states). When we were discussing our options about flying, driving, going or not going, a funny thing happened that was sort of new to us…not once during our discussion did my wife or myself ask the question “Do we have enough money” or “How much will it cost?”  We knew stuffed away in a local credit union was had everything we needed to do whatever we needed to do.

At 2am, within couple hours of receiving the emotional news Mrs. Financio, Mrs. Financio JR, and myself found ourselves in the SUV, making a quick stop at the ATM to grab some cash then we made a break for the border(s).

18 months ago this whole scheme would have played out a bit differently. It likely would have involved some unpleasant discussions about money and credit cards and bills and gas money, all are the last things I want to talk about when things complicated. After all was said and done there was no debt incurred, there was no discussion about the money involved in making the trip. We were free to do what we felt we needed to do without any concern for the dollars involved. This unexpected trip that came about by a huge loss in my life was in a way also huge success for me financially and, proof that some sacrifice and good decision making can pay off in big ways that can’t be explained in terms of dollars. The crazy part was that this came right on the heels of our Serious Budget Busting Week I think somebody out there is testing me to see if I’m really serious about this whole debt free thing!

Emergency money was a key in my strategy to remove the debts from my life. In my posts To Whom the Accidents Happen and So the Accidents Don’t Happen to You, I talked about the importance of saving some money to help cushion you from some of the lumps you take just by living your life.  After reading up on the subject a bit (actually quite a bit – I knew nothing about having money in the bank) My conclusion was if I was going to lower my debt I first needed to put some money in place to prevent me from using debt to live my life every day. Now my only financial safety net is my bank account where before I used credit lines – I sleep much better now.

How long could you cover your household living expenses with your current liquid savings? This survey of 2,318 adults 18 & older asked how long people could survive on the liquid money they had available. It proves how unprepared many Americans are with less emergency money available than the professional financial nerds out there recommend.

• Less than one week 17%
• One week - one month 14%
• One month - 90 days 24%
• Three - six months 10%
• Six months or more 19%
• Declined to answer 17%

The scary numbers are the first two. 31% don’t think they could make it a month. That’s a scary state of affairs for a lot of people out there. Most advisers recommend 3-6 months in liquid money. According to this survey only a third of Americans measure up to those recommendations though it sounds like from recent reports the current economy may have scared some more money into savings accounts over the last year or so. From my experience lately though people have been spending more time whining about being broke than actually doing something about it…I guess we’ll see the next time “it rains!”

So how does  your family measure up? Post a comment and lets us know (don’t worry you can even use a fakie name if that makes you feel better about yourself)

*Survey source: LexisNexis Martindale-Hubbell’s Lawyers.com survey of 2,318 adults 18 and older.

 

When the blind lead the blind…get the hell out of the way!

Have you ever heard that saying? Well as stupid as the saying is it actually has some solid logic to behind it. When I was first working to take out my debts I got some great advice from someone that makes quite a heck of a lot more money than I do (I know that’s hard to believe). Anyway…he told me “never hire an accountant whose client list includes people that make less money than you do.” In other words always look for people that can help you grow into more than you are now instead of the opposite.  

This advice stands true with most of the advice we receive around money (and most anything else for that matter).  If somebody isn’t successful with the particular advice they’re giving why should you not be a bit skeptical?  This is exactly what many do with our money decision each day. Often we take counsel from people who make poor money decisions. Sometime it’s formal counsel like an advisor and sometimes it’s just a couple guys hanging out having a beer bs’n about a new ski boat. In either case always step back for a second and ask “where’s this information really coming from? 

In a business sales seminar I was once taught to “mentally step back” from a negotiation and pretend you are looking in on the conversation like an outsider. The idea being as an observer of both parties you get a better idea of where each party is coming from and where they’re trying to go. Whenever I receive money advice I do this as well, not in lame close my eyes and go to my “happy place” kind of way, but I try to step back and take an intentionally subjective look at what’s being said. Who’s saying it, What they’re saying, Where has their experience and/or expertise come from, Why are they really telling this to me, etc. Also you must always understand that some things rub off on us with or without an actual conversation, especially from friends and family. Always be alert to what people around you are saying and doing. If everybody around you is driving around in financed cars or living in homes with absurd mortgages you may find yourself taking their cues.  

With your money you need to be cautious of where you get your guidance. You must always be objective with new information. You must always consider who it’s coming from, where they are coming from, why they are passing these nuggets on to you, and what it has to do with you. Why would you allow people who continually make poor money decisions to advise you on your finances? Sad thing is we all do this stupid move everyday and often don’t even realize its happening.

So what steps can you take to avoid unintentionally honoring advice from broke people?

• Have a solid financial plan – you don’t have to be rich or have your plan completed but clearly knowing where you are going and how you intend to get there will help you do what you feel is correct not what others tell you is correct.
• Continue learning – the more you know the better information you will have to make more sound decisions. You don’t have to be a genius with your money but if you know more you will have more option available to you
• This is a big one….Don’t hang around with broke people! Okay, that’s a bit harsh but seriously if the people around you are not helping you reach your goals maybe you should consider how you interact with them. I’m not saying stop talking to your broke family, coworkers or friends (unless you want to, you can blame it on me I don’t mind) but if they’re dragging you out to dinner or continually convince you to do things that you really can’t afford this might be a good time to reevaluate when & where & how you spend time with certain people. They may unintentionally be creating obstacles to you reaching your goals.     

Step back and look at the advice, influence, or sales pressure and only then can you make a clear decision on your next move. Figure out what works best for you to keep yourself on track and always remember who you’re listening to because sometimes you don’t even realize you’re listening to them (and there’s a fairly reasonable chance they’re an idiot)

Last night I received phone call from Military Wife about her Citibank credit card interest rate being raised from 13% to 29% interest. Actually if I remember correctly her exact words were…

the %!<&\# at Citi just jacked my interest rate right after I made the stupid payment

Her call sent Vinny Financio into action and prompted me to snoop around the inter-web a bit. Little did I know I would find out that Citigroup has also started charging annual fees to card holders who don’t put more than a specific amount on their cards, typically $2,400 per year. So let me get this straight…If I use a card you charge me, (I get that) If I don’t use my card you charge me (thats the part I don’t get!).

Okay that’s not really true, I do get it they are charging customers more fees. That’s what they do, that’s what their consumer business model is based on. The part I don’t get is why do they still have customers? You know the saying though…

you can lead an idiot to water but you can’t make him drown himself

It amazes me what people are willing to put up with. Luckily though Military Wife, due to her recent financial progress, was able to close the account and I doubt she was able to contain her ex-Marine Corp potty mouth when she told them what she thought about their new programs. I guess at this point for those that are willing to accept this treatment more power to them. Somebody has to get bent over the bar to keep those bank stocks in my mutual funds afloat for another 30 years. Personally I’ll take my own road on this one.