Financial Freak Show

Here’s a guest post from my favorite military wife / mom. In this post she talks about her change in mindset around the extra deployment money that’ll be coming in soon from her husband heading off to do what needs to be done for those that can’t do it for themselves. For those of you not familiar with the military pay; “deployment money” is the extra pay they receive when they’re deployed…hence the name “deployment money” and to sweeten the deal many times this money comes to them tax free. Apparently they can earn a noticeable pay increase during the time they are taking on the bad guys – and in my opinion they deserve every damn penny they get!

Enjoy the following guest post – and when you get to the part about “a very wise man” and “single-handedly did something Superman and an army of super heroes couldn’t have done” remember that me she’s talking about- oh yeah!

‘Deployment money” a military wife’s favorite words. Visions of Coach Bags and spa trips dance through her head while trying to fight back the tears as her husband boards the plane. We all do it, yet most of us won’t admit it. This time though I’m taking this deployment to a whole new level. I’m on a mission to go down in the military spouse hall of fame as the one who passed the Coach bags in the Exchange and with a disdainful smirk I head to the children’s section for the half priced shoes. Ever notice they put those gorgeous bags right in the front walkway of the store? I am on the road to paying off all of our debt. All of it, all $125,000 in credit cards, car loans, and the boat. Our awesome boat – yup, the one we can’t afford to put gas in.

Thank you to a very wise man who, in a 20 minute conversation, single-handedly did something Superman and an army of super heroes couldn’t have done. Got me (of my own free will no less) to pull every credit card out of my wallet, wrap them pretty in a rubber band and throw them in a drawer I affectionately call the “junk drawer.” Fitting name huh? I then proceeded to break the news to my husband. We sat down and had what was probably the most open and honest discussion about our finances in almost nine years of marriage. We mapped out a plan TOGETHER, figured out where we could cut back, then celebrated… by eating our first dinner at home in a long time! (a personal apology to all Olive Garden shareholders).

Using my husband’s first “deployment money” that came in from a recent short trip, I paid off the lowest balance debt. Seeing that first zero was almost as exciting as a new pair of shoes. The second zero balance I have achieved almost made me… well you get it.

It’s a game now. I created a sweet little excel spreadsheet staying true to my “excel goddess” nickname that auto-calculates our totals, gives me the percentage paid down on each debt and the total percentage of debt paid off to date. Are you ready for this? 10.24% in 2 weeks. TWO WEEKS!! That’s about $12,000 of worry, stress and interest we’ll never have to pay on again!! He leaves again in a few weeks for 6 months this time. And I will sit in my office every day and secretly curse all of the women telling stories of the money they spent the past weekends on shoes, clothes and manicures, and I think of all the things our family can do with our money when he comes home. Things like a family vacation paid for with actual money. All out of our bank account instead of on credit cards. Amazing.

I have a feeling the next 6 months is going to change the rest of their lives. So do you think she can pull it off? Do you think somebody’s going to get hurt if they stand in her way?

Please take a second and add an encouraging comment.

I’m often asked how does someone function in our current world without the use of a stack of credit cards. Hopefully this page will help clarify why I feel the way I do and how it is possible to function in our society without using or relying on credit cards.

PART 1.

My lack of credit cards (the why)

Living without a credit card is actually not very complicated. In my opinion it’s actually more simple than living with one. I have now been without a credit card for over two years and have not had to change my lifestyle because of it – well atleast not in a negative way.

First I want to discuss the reasons why I don’t use credit cards. For many people who have “credit card problems” the reason is usually self control or a lack of financial knowledge. Credit cards are often used as a financial crutch to help people limp along when they don’t actually have the money to cover a purchase they can’t resist or truly need in the case of an emergency. Many people can manage credit cards without getting into any major trouble. This was the case for me personally, my credit cards and balances they carried were far from the point of blowing up our finances and we had no trouble handling the payments each month. I was even able to enjoy some of the “rewards” these cards offered to me.

So why did I decide to remove the cards from my wallet if they weren’t causing any problems and was reaping some rewards?  Well folks there were a few reasons…

I didn’t like the feeling of paying for last month’s expenses this month. I hated sending off  money I just received to pay for things I didn’t posses any longer. Even though I may have been able to pay the balances down to zero each month I still felt like my finances were a month behind. The weight of any debt no matter how small has a way wearing on me. The truth is carrying debt takes energy from your life even if it’s only the energy needed to check the statement and send the payment.

Overspending; a Dunn and Bradstreet study is often quoted in blogs, and the major media. The study reports on average you’ll spend 12-18% more when making a purchase with a credit card as opposed to cash. And to prove their point they noted the average McDonald’s transaction increased from $4.50 with cash to $7.00 when credit was used. When they looked at vending machines, the average transaction size nearly doubled. Now for me I don’t doubt that I unintentionally spent more using plastic at times (I’ve been guilty of supersizing my life a time or two!) I know for a fact I’ve done this with the thought that I’d be getting more perks by adding to what I charge. So even though this was not the key factor for dumping my cards it was defiantly a consideration.    

Paying interest; this is an easy one in my opinion. Why would you save money at low checking or saving account interest rates while carrying a high interest balance on unsecured debt? It just doesn’t make sense to me – why pay interest when with a bit of planning you could be receiving interest? I never quite understood why people will say “don’t pay off you mortgage because you can make more in the stock market” and then use credit cards with 10%-30% interest rates. But it works for you have at it

I also saw no benefit to using a credit card. I know they offered me points, and insurance, and extended warranties and cash back, but to me I realized I was putting up with the issues above and found myself never getting any real benefit from all the extras they were offering me in exchange for dealing with the negatives. And as far as the convenience factor, well to be honest my credit cards weren’t anymore convenient than my debit card.  This was the big reason I now have no credit cards in my wallet…they do nothing for me, I didn’t see the so called “benefits”

This was my biggest reason….Why spend your time trying to outsmart the credit card companies? This is what they do for a living and they are better at it than I will ever be. True some people can beat them at their own game, charge up the month on credit, pay it off on the 30^th, never pay fees, never pay interest, and collect the rewards points at the end of the month.  If that’s how you roll and how you want to spend your time and energy. I’d much rather spend my time chillaxin and not worrying about trying to outsmart them while they’re trying to outsmart me. I’m not saying you can’t outsmart these folks but I am saying it’s a lot of damn work! 

This was the big reason…. So to briefly summarize why I don’t use credit cards…I don’t like to pay interest, I don’t like to being tempted to over spend, I don’t like the hassle of making the payments on time, and finally I never really received any benefit from the incentives they offered. So basically it came down to multiple negatives and no real positives.

Let’s put it this way….Let’s say you were dating a credit card. She charged high fees when you used her and possibly charged you when you didn’t use her, then tempted you to do things that weren’t in your best interest like overspending, then she drove you crazy by making you pay her a 25 days after the fun was over or risk having to pay her even more, then she offered you restricted “benefits” and “rewards” that you didn’t really care to use and if at any point you fail to keep your promises in the relationship she will call incessantly, threaten you then ultimately drag you into court and win. Then after you and her work out all your monetary issues you realized she never really cared about you in the first place and was only after your money – I don’t think that’s a very healthy relationship. Sorry, no matter how good that hot little number looked being flaunted around town with me I’d have to break it off!

To reinforce my thoughts around credit cards but with a little less Vinny Financio I want to refer back to my post So When is Debt Okay?  In this post I lay out four things to consider when determining if a debt is okay. Rule 1: Common Sense Rule 2: A Guaranteed way to repay Rule 3: Peace of heart and mind Rule 4: Unity;

In my opinion credit cards do not satisfy the four rules outlining when it is okay to borrow. Well it could fit into rules #1, #3 & #4 Common Sense, Peace of Mind & Unity. Though this all depends on your household situation but in my household we came to “Unity” on the fact that we didn’t see the “Common Sense” in borrowing money day to day and coming to that agreement gave us “Peace of Mind” knowing we were always living on what we had. As for Rule #2 Guaranteed Way to Repay; most credit cards I know of don’t have this guarantee built into them. They are only guaranteed by your future income but your future income is only guaranteed to the point that you have sufficient income. Lose your income and you have no guarantee there for it’s not a “Guaranteed Way to Repay.” Credit Cards are not secured by any real property which is why credit cards are referred to as unsecured debt.

I only have one more point to make regarding using any form of debt in your day-to-day life. This one though is intangible and hard to quantify with numbers. The feelings & emotions people feel around having debt in general. In several of my posts I’ve shared the experience others have had with their own personal battles with debt. Here are a few of those quotes:

Being away from my family at night is one of most difficult things I’ve had to do.  When I look into my kids eyes though, I know it will be worth it.  - Jeff, Deliver Away Debt

and I think of all our family can do with our money when he comes home. Things like a family vacation paid for with actual money. Out of our checking account and not on credit cards. Amazing.  - Military Mom, Deployment Money

he called me the day after our discussion and let me know he cleaned out his wallet to make room for some cash instead. 8 days later he’s still on the wagon as he puts it. I told him he sounds like a recovering crack head, he said that’s about how he feels.  - Mark, 8-days Clean

Now that I’ve laid all this out there for you I want to finish with the thought that you’re all big boys and you can make your own big boy decisions about your finances but that’s my $.02

Part 2.

Living without credit cards (the how)

Once I decided I was no longer going to depend on credit cards as a way of making purchases I needed to come up with another option that would allow me to make all the purchases I needed to without cramping my style too much.

There were a couple issues I took consideration before I got rid of all my cards. How was I going to have access to my money anytime & anywhere?  Second how can you function without a credit card, especially since I travel a bit and my wife almost is never carrying much cash? Here is what I came up with and so far it has worked flawlessly for us.

The first thing I did was create a place to stash the money. Since I wanted to have access to this money with the same ease as using a credit card I went for an account with a debit card. I opened a high interest free checking account at a local credit union. This is not the same place we have our primary checking account we use for everyday expenses though. I chose a different bank for our emergency savings for two reasons. One, I wanted to make sure the debit cards we were issued were Mastercard card since our primary debit cards were Visa. Two, I wanted to be linked to a different banking system. Both of these reasons were to ensure that I always had access to money if either Mastercard or Visa had problems or if either of the banks were having technical problems for one reason or another. After working with a credit card fraud team for some time and on the back end of a couple e-commerce websites I realized how inconvenient those issues are and how easily they can arise through no actions of your own. So far to date I haven’t had any issues getting access to my money. 

Now that we had a place to stash the money it was time to actually put some money in there. I first opened the account with $1200 we had set aside in our regular savings account. Now that I was going to only rely on this money instead of relying on this money and credit to get by I know I needed to add to this account as quickly as possible. So for a few months any money we could manage to pull out of our budget went directly into that saving account. At the time I was also working a second job to help knock out our debts too, so any money I made there went into this account as soon as we got a hold of it. This all quickly added up to several thousand dollars and now there’s even more. The funny thing is there is more money in there now than I ever had available on my credit cards.   

This new account was only to be used for an emergency and we BOTH had to agree this was an emergency. Since our marriage is based on trust and shared goals there is no issue with us both having easy access to the money. We trusted each other not to let the other down. Plus if either of us was going to screw this up it was probably going to be me.       

So at this point the only thing left to do is stick to our plan. To date we’ve not had any issues that have made me second guess this plan. We’ve traveled, we’ve rented several cars, we’ve bought things over the internet, basically we’ve have done most everything everybody swears they need a credit card but have done it with a debit card. If somebody were to steal my money or I have to disagree with a transaction (both of which I’ve had happen btw) I just grab my other debit card and put gas in the car just like you would with a credit card but without needing to pay it back next month.

To sum it all up….

1. We have more money available; like I said we have more in the account than we ever had available on our cards.
2. We now earn interest, not a lot but it is adding up. True we didn’t set this money aside for growth but it is a nice bonus to the deal.
3. We’re never owe anybody at the end of the month and if something were to self destruct in our financial lives we won’t be borrowing money at the exact time it gets most difficult to pay it back.
4. We have no need to use credit cards and no need to deal with the card companies – I don’t have any personal credit card horror stories but I sure don’t want to start any

People wonder how I can function without a credit card….I wonder why they can’t?

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In many cases monthly spending just sort of happens. Then at the end of the month you look up and say something like “What the ****! Where did it all our money go” or if things worked out more in your favor it may sound something like “Woohoo! I get paid tomorrow and there’s still money in my account…who’s yo’ daddy now!” Either way this is often a byproduct of us just living our busy lives. So here’s a few steps I recommend to insure you’re yelling “Woohoo” with somebody more often than you’re yelling “What the ****!” at sombody.

Don’t worry this one’s pretty easy I promise.

1. Figure out what you’ve got coming in each month and where the heck it’s all going.
2. Next figure out what you can cut back on (ex. heat, clothing for the kids, food, you know the unnecessary stuff) and what you’re not able to cut back on (ex. booze, smokes, online gambling – you know the important stuff in life) – FYI, that was a joke
3. Begin making some tough decisions and adjust your budget accordingly. Apply the extra money toward your goals– make sure everybody involved comes to agreement on this stuff
4. Come up with a cool way to track you progress. A nifty spread sheet is what I used (but I’m sorta nerdy) Another idea may be to put a big list on the fridge where you can see it everyday and cross things off as you go (ask any kindergarten teacher, this may sound lame but it works!) Use what works best for you and helps keep you on track towards your bigger goals. 

The important thing here is to work on refining your money habits to accomplish the things that really matter to you. Personal finance in many cases is more of a psychological game than a numbers game so play to win. Many of us make enough to accomplish our goals but don’t always behave in ways that allow us to.

 If I’ve got correct goals, and if I keep pursuing them the best way I know how, everything falls into line.  -Dan Dierdorf

I’ve talked to many people that have well above average incomes but are not able to live a peaceful life at a level that co-insides with their income level and in many cases they are almost broke! FYI, according to the US Census Bureau, the US household median income in 2006 was $48,201.00. While talking with these people I realize in most cases thier financial situation is completely their fault! I know some will think that’s a bit harsh and uncalled for but stay with me here for a minute. Trust me I know “life happens” and sometimes it kicks the hell out of you and sometimes we can’t do much about it. I get that, I really do. People do get sick, people do lose jobs, marriages do implode, people do wreck cars coming home from parties, and yes a Peruvian stripper can steal your wallet when you’re not looking! In most though cases it really comes down to how you live your life both before and after these challenges arise. It usually comes down to you.  This brings me to a very powerful 100-something year old quote I found some time ago while reading:

Did you ever observe to whom the accidents happen? Chance favors only the prepared mind     -Louis Pasteur (1822-1895)

Maybe you didn’t make yourself invaluable in the workplace, maybe you failed to give your relationship the attention it needed, maybe you could have paid down debts to eliminate risk, maybe you could have cared better for your health, maybe you could have given a bigger tip to your stripper friend, and maybe you could have worked harder to build a solid financial foundation to plant your family on top of so when it rains (and it will rain) you’re still on a solid footing. Maybe you had a part in what happened.

After reading the quote above I realized there are certain people around me that seem to have crazy things happen to them almost every day. They seem to live life running from one fire to another. Does this remind you of someone you know, maybe even yourself? These people are usually easy to spot since they start most conversations with “you’ll never believe what happened to me”.  I think if you were to write down every retarded thing that’s happened them in the last 6 months you would likely find a common  denominator…THEM! It’s them…it’s how they live their lives. They have no focus, no self accountability, no self control, no drive and no discipline to change. Many poeple though do have the ability to recognize their positions and fight like hell until they either change it or die from it.

Lets take a minute and try an exercise, take a friend’s crazy life and write down all the nutty things that have happened “to” them in the last six months. Now have a good laugh at their expense, don’t tell them you did this though – it’s bad form! Then the next time they say “you won’t believe what happened to me yesterday” extend a bit of grace and maybe a little advice because we all know we’ve all been there. Now get off your lazy butt and do the same thing for your life. Make a list of your recent crazy happenings. Then make a list of what you’re going to do about it (note the only person who fix something about it is you….not your mommy, not your boss, and especially not the government!) Unlike many people who refuse to take responsibility for their lives, be a FinancialFreak and take control of your situation and work like hell to fix it!

Another great quote from Louis Pasteur sums it up pretty well:

When you work seven days a week, fourteen hours a day, you get lucky.

 Comment and tell me and the other readers what you’re going to do about this starting today. (A little accountability never hurt anyone right?)

I was recently talking with someone about them not wanting to pay the 29% interest rate on a credit card they were carrying. So with my personal compassion filter removed I made the comment:

If you didn’t want to pay 29% why’d you sign the stupid contract then?

Now to my FinancialFreak mind this seemed like a perfectly logical question. If you didn’t want to pay 29% why did you agree to borrow money at 29%? According to this person it wasn’t their fault (can you believe they actually attempted to shift the blame on this one?) Apparently they agreed to a 1.0% interest rate in the beginning. That was all fine and good until a payment was made late and the card company killed her on the rate with no warning. Okay in my opinion that’s not entirely true, they did send a warning, it was in the fine print when she signed up for the stupid deal in the first place. So you’re telling me since the card company raised the rate it was their fault? I’m sure it wasn’t your fault for signing onto a bad deal then not making the required payments so the company adhered to the contract and raised your rate because they think you’re a flake and won’t pay them back in the future?   

When a person signs a contract for a credit card (or anything else for that matter) you agree to the terms of the contract. If you don’t like the terms of the contract then you should probably not sign up.

So that then brought up the question of how one would get by without using credit cards. What do you do if you have an emergency? How do you buy stuff online or travel without a credit card? Actually the answer to this is pretty straight forward. So I told her what I’ve done to avoid needing credit cards.

First I removed all my credit cards from my wallet and cut them up – how are you going to stop using them if you keep using them – seems pretty obvious to me.

Then I worked to pay them all off. Since in my case this took some time to do I proceeded to the next steps while I worked on paying the balance down from buying crap I couldn’t afford to impress people I didn’t even like (that’s with interest added of course!)

Next I opened a second free checking account with another bank that also gave my wife and me a couple debit cards, just like our regular checking account so yes we now had two checking accounts and each carried two debit cards.

The next step was to fund this account. We did this by not spending more than we made for a couple months (I know another tough concept for many to grasp). By doing this for a while we were able to gather up some extra money which we deposited into this second checking account. At the time this was about a $1200 (which is where we tried to keep the balance while we were paying down our debts.)

We called this our emergency fund (well a starter version at least). This was only to be used for an emergency and we BOTH had to agree is was an emergency. Since our marriage was based on trust and shared goals there was no issue with us both having easy access to this money. We trusted each other not to let the other down. Plus if either of us was going to screw this up it was going to be me since I am a spender but I know better than to unleash the wrath of my saver wife….again!      

Now that this was all in place we were left with our “emergency cards” and our normal debit cards. These were not credit cards so we only had access to what we had in the account. True we only had a $1200 safety net between us and the world but that seemed adequate for most issues that may arise. Seriously how often do you spend more than $1200 in one shot? In our case this was not nearly enough to protect us from a job loss or major illness but it covered the occasional car and home repairs that always seem to pop up at the worst possible times. Funny thing was this was ten-times the money than I used to keeping the bank but since it was my only safety net now it scared the pants off of me and motivated me to finish the process.   

Once we climbed out from under or debts we we’re able to quickly increase this fund to several months of living expenses. Now, hopefully, we have the ability to handle much larger emergencies like a really broken car of a really broken job, without going back into debt. I will say we’re still a long way from driving around in a Bentley with $60,000 gold teeth tossing $100 bills out the window…but if we do I can pretty well guarantee we won’t be paying 29% interest to make it happen

Have you ever signed up for stupid deal you had regrets over? Did you learn any lessons?