Having a credit card to fall back on can dissuade you from building a proper emergency fund. I think this happens for a couple reasons. First, with credit you already have a safety net in place. That’s actually one of the reasons many people get credit cards in the first place. Though this can quickly blow up in your face because you could be taking on debt at the exact time it gets most difficult to pay it back. It amazes me how many people grab their credit cards right after a job loss and began using high interest cash advances for everyday life at the exact worse time to be borrowing money. I think having the cards as a safety net allows people to feel like they’re covered so the urgency to save really isn’t there.

Second, I think another reason people don’t build emergency savings when they use cards is because they’re constantly working to clear the debts. Instead of making savings a priority they make keeping up with the card balances a priority. The more debt they have on their cards the less they have available to save and the more likely they’ll need the cards to cover their butts again and so the cycle continues.  

At some point if you want to go with out credit cards you need to break the cycle of spending instead of saving. I personally stashed away a little dough to use for future “emergencies” then stopped using the cards. Once I stopped using the cards and had some real money in the bank to fall back on all I really had to do was eliminate the balances and at that point I was done with the credit card cycle. I had no use for them anymore. I now have an emergency fund with more money available to me than I ever had available on my credit cards…oh and it’s earning interest too.

The good news is Mark has decided, for the first time ever, to start saving. He’s now quickly building an emergency fund since this’ll be his only safety net going forward. It looks like with a little encouragement and some discipline our buddy Mark won’t be “financially retarded” too much longer…at least that’s the plan.

So what’s your plan for dealing with credit cards, do you want them gone, do you really need them around? Let me know how you feel about this.

I think for many reasons debt can often do more harm than good, especially over the long term. Not just financial damage but emotional, relational, and sometime physical damage. Debt is not always a bad thing to have and in some cases it can work out. Though in my opinion for a lot of people and a lot of  situations it’s very often either dumb or unnecessary. In Ron Blue’s book The Debt Squeeze he addresses when he feels it is okay to borrow money and carry the debt. He lays this out in four simple rules that I’ll summarize for you:

Rule 1: Common Sense; this rule is pretty straight forward. You need to seriously consider what this debt will do to/for your life. Will the payments stress you family, your business, yourself? Are you making a mistake at some level by bringing this into your life? Will this be a blessing now and in the future of are you signing up for another future financial disaster and just justifying it somehow? Does this purchase fit well into your financial plan and future goals?

Rule 2: A Guaranteed way to repay; this is the rule that caught my attention (it’s a good one so stay with me!)  Can you guarantee repayment for this debt? I’m not talking about promising all of next year’s paychecks, I’m talking about a guaranteed way to repay. What this means to me is not borrowing money towards things that cannot stand good for themselves. Real estate is a great example. A mortgage is secured against the value of the property itself – assuming you had a proper down payment or solid equity when purchased. If you can’t make the payments in theory the value of the asset would stand good for the debt liability. Purchasing a business may also fall into this category assuming you are buying true assets and not just a process or name.  

A car (especially new) almost never falls into the guaranteed repayment category. This is due to the value of vehicles dropping too fast. Cars almost never increase in value (well not the kind you drive anyway). So unless you are borrowing $1,000 on a $12,000 car I doubt a financed vehicle can truly stand good for the purchase on its own. I know this sucks but how many people do you know with a financed car can sell the vehicle and clear the debt with the proceeds from the day they drive it home and through the life of the loan? That’s not a guaranteed way to repay.

Sometimes you can pledge the value of one asset as collateral for another financed asset. If you have the ability to take that route then you may have fulfilled Rule #2 and if you’re okay with that then I’m okay with that!

Obviously there are many variables to consider for Rule #2 but this part of the debt decision deserves some serious consideration and some honest answers to some tricky “what if” questions. Can you remove this debt burden from your life if necessary without being kicked in your financial groin? If you can’t answer yes to that question stop right here and reconsider.

Rule 3: Peace of heart and mind; Rule 3 is a bit more spiritual than the others in my opinion. How is this debt going to make you feel? Are you going to beat yourself up over the next five years for making a quick decision? Are you going to unintentionally going to forgo some big goal in the future for a pick-me-up right now? Will you lock yourself in to a job you don’t really want because you strapped yourself with a house payment you can barely cover? Will you put off your saving for the kiddo’s college to drive a new truck? Will you be able to sleep at night after you sign on the line?

Rule 4: Unity; This rule is easy to explain. This rule relates to married folks or people partnering with someone else in one way or another. Basically what is being said here is if you’re going to be in debt you need to be on the same page with your spouse or partners on what is happening and what is going to happen in the future. That’s really it. The two of you need to have a solid agreement and commitment to carry the burden together as one.

So assuming you can come to terms on all of these four rules a particular debt may not be such a bad thing in your life. That said, if for any reason you question don’t have a solid honest answer for any of these rules you may be buying a ticket for a ride you didn’t really plan on taking. Financial decisions should be very deliberate and well thought out no matter what dollar amount is involved. Slow down, take a little time and consider all your options then move forward deliberately and cautiously – every time

How long could you cover your household living expenses with your current liquid savings? This survey of 2,318 adults 18 & older asked how long people could survive on the liquid money they had available. It proves how unprepared many Americans are with less emergency money available than the professional financial nerds out there recommend.

• Less than one week 17%
• One week - one month 14%
• One month - 90 days 24%
• Three - six months 10%
• Six months or more 19%
• Declined to answer 17%

The scary numbers are the first two. 31% don’t think they could make it a month. That’s a scary state of affairs for a lot of people out there. Most advisers recommend 3-6 months in liquid money. According to this survey only a third of Americans measure up to those recommendations though it sounds like from recent reports the current economy may have scared some more money into savings accounts over the last year or so. From my experience lately though people have been spending more time whining about being broke than actually doing something about it…I guess we’ll see the next time “it rains!”

So how does  your family measure up? Post a comment and lets us know (don’t worry you can even use a fakie name if that makes you feel better about yourself)

*Survey source: LexisNexis Martindale-Hubbell’s Lawyers.com survey of 2,318 adults 18 and older.

Rule 1: Common Sense; this rule is pretty straight forward. You need to seriously consider what this debt will do to/for your life. Will the payments stress you family, your business, yourself? Are you making a mistake at some level by bringing this into your life? Will this be a blessing now and in the future of are you signing up for another future financial disaster and just justifying it somehow? Does this purchase fit well into your financial plan and future goals?

Rule 2: A Guaranteed way to repay; this is the rule that caught my attention (it’s a good one so stay with me!)  Can you guarantee repayment for this debt? I’m not talking about promising all of next year’s paychecks, I’m talking about a guaranteed way to repay. What this means to me is not borrowing money towards things that cannot stand good for themselves. Real estate is a great example. A mortgage is secured against the value of the property itself – assuming you had a proper down payment or solid equity when purchased. If you can’t make the payments in theory the value of the asset would stand good for the debt liability. Purchasing a business may also fall into this category assuming you are buying true assets and not just a process or name.  

A car (especially new) almost never falls into the guaranteed repayment category. This is due to the value of vehicles dropping too fast. Cars almost never increase in value (well not the kind you drive anyway). So unless you are borrowing $1,000 on a $12,000 car I doubt a financed vehicle can truly stand good for the purchase on its own. I know this sucks but how many people do you know with a financed car can sell the vehicle and clear the debt with the proceeds from the day they drive it home and through the life of the loan? That’s not a guaranteed way to repay.

Sometimes you can pledge the value of one asset as collateral for another financed asset. If you have the ability to take that route then you may have fulfilled Rule #2 and if you’re okay with that then I’m okay with that!

Obviously there are many variables to consider for Rule #2 but this part of the debt decision deserves some serious consideration and some honest answers to some tricky “what if” questions. Can you remove this debt burden from your life if necessary without being kicked in your financial groin? If you can’t answer yes to that question stop right here and reconsider.

Rule 3: Peace of heart and mind; Rule 3 is a bit more spiritual than the others in my opinion. How is this debt going to make you feel? Are you going to beat yourself up over the next five years for making a quick decision? Are you going to unintentionally going to forgo some big goal in the future for a pick-me-up right now? Will you lock yourself in to a job you don’t really want because you strapped yourself with a house payment you can barely cover? Will you put off your saving for the kiddo’s college to drive a new truck? Will you be able to sleep at night after you sign on the line?

Rule 4: Unity; This rule is easy to explain. This rule relates to married folks or people partnering with someone else in one way or another. Basically what is being said here is if you’re going to be in debt you need to be on the same page with your spouse or partners on what is happening and what is going to happen in the future. That’s really it. The two of you need to have a solid agreement and commitment to carry the burden together as one.

So assuming you can come to terms on these four rules this debt may not be such a bad thing in your life. That said, if for any reason you question don’t have a solid honest answer for any of these rules you may be buying a ticket for a ride you didn’t really plan on taking. Financial decisions should be very deliberate and well thought out no matter what dollar amount is involved. Slow down, take a little time and consider all your options then move forward deliberately and cautiously – every time   

Do you agree with these 4 rules? Have you taken on debt without considering one of these principles? How’d that work out for you? Please share.

PART 1.

My lack of credit cards (the why)

Living without a credit card is actually not very complicated. In my opinion it’s actually more simple than living with one. I have now been without a credit card for over two years and have not had to change my lifestyle because of it – well atleast not in a negative way.

First I want to discuss the reasons why I don’t use credit cards. For many people who have “credit card problems” the reason is usually self control or a lack of financial knowledge. Credit cards are often used as a financial crutch to help people limp along when they don’t actually have the money to cover a purchase they can’t resist or truly need in the case of an emergency. Many people can manage credit cards without getting into any major trouble. This was the case for me personally, my credit cards and balances they carried were far from the point of blowing up our finances and we had no trouble handling the payments each month. I was even able to enjoy some of the “rewards” these cards offered to me.

So why did I decide to remove the cards from my wallet if they weren’t causing any problems and was reaping some rewards?  Well folks there were a few reasons…

I didn’t like the feeling of paying for last month’s expenses this month. I hated sending off  money I just received to pay for things I didn’t posses any longer. Even though I may have been able to pay the balances down to zero each month I still felt like my finances were a month behind. The weight of any debt no matter how small has a way wearing on me. The truth is carrying debt takes energy from your life even if it’s only the energy needed to check the statement and send the payment.

Overspending; a Dunn and Bradstreet study is often quoted in blogs, and the major media. The study reports on average you’ll spend 12-18% more when making a purchase with a credit card as opposed to cash. And to prove their point they noted the average McDonald’s transaction increased from $4.50 with cash to $7.00 when credit was used. When they looked at vending machines, the average transaction size nearly doubled. Now for me I don’t doubt that I unintentionally spent more using plastic at times (I’ve been guilty of supersizing my life a time or two!) I know for a fact I’ve done this with the thought that I’d be getting more perks by adding to what I charge. So even though this was not the key factor for dumping my cards it was defiantly a consideration.    

Paying interest; this is an easy one in my opinion. Why would you save money at low checking or saving account interest rates while carrying a high interest balance on unsecured debt? It just doesn’t make sense to me – why pay interest when with a bit of planning you could be receiving interest? I never quite understood why people will say “don’t pay off you mortgage because you can make more in the stock market” and then use credit cards with 10%-30% interest rates. But it works for you have at it

I also saw no benefit to using a credit card. I know they offered me points, and insurance, and extended warranties and cash back, but to me I realized I was putting up with the issues above and found myself never getting any real benefit from all the extras they were offering me in exchange for dealing with the negatives. And as far as the convenience factor, well to be honest my credit cards weren’t anymore convenient than my debit card.  This was the big reason I now have no credit cards in my wallet…they do nothing for me, I didn’t see the so called “benefits”

This was my biggest reason….Why spend your time trying to outsmart the credit card companies? This is what they do for a living and they are better at it than I will ever be. True some people can beat them at their own game, charge up the month on credit, pay it off on the 30^th, never pay fees, never pay interest, and collect the rewards points at the end of the month.  If that’s how you roll and how you want to spend your time and energy. I’d much rather spend my time chillaxin and not worrying about trying to outsmart them while they’re trying to outsmart me. I’m not saying you can’t outsmart these folks but I am saying it’s a lot of damn work! 

This was the big reason…. So to briefly summarize why I don’t use credit cards…I don’t like to pay interest, I don’t like to being tempted to over spend, I don’t like the hassle of making the payments on time, and finally I never really received any benefit from the incentives they offered. So basically it came down to multiple negatives and no real positives.

Let’s put it this way….Let’s say you were dating a credit card. She charged high fees when you used her and possibly charged you when you didn’t use her, then tempted you to do things that weren’t in your best interest like overspending, then she drove you crazy by making you pay her a 25 days after the fun was over or risk having to pay her even more, then she offered you restricted “benefits” and “rewards” that you didn’t really care to use and if at any point you fail to keep your promises in the relationship she will call incessantly, threaten you then ultimately drag you into court and win. Then after you and her work out all your monetary issues you realized she never really cared about you in the first place and was only after your money – I don’t think that’s a very healthy relationship. Sorry, no matter how good that hot little number looked being flaunted around town with me I’d have to break it off!

To reinforce my thoughts around credit cards but with a little less Vinny Financio I want to refer back to my post So When is Debt Okay?  In this post I lay out four things to consider when determining if a debt is okay. Rule 1: Common Sense Rule 2: A Guaranteed way to repay Rule 3: Peace of heart and mind Rule 4: Unity;

In my opinion credit cards do not satisfy the four rules outlining when it is okay to borrow. Well it could fit into rules #1, #3 & #4 Common Sense, Peace of Mind & Unity. Though this all depends on your household situation but in my household we came to “Unity” on the fact that we didn’t see the “Common Sense” in borrowing money day to day and coming to that agreement gave us “Peace of Mind” knowing we were always living on what we had. As for Rule #2 Guaranteed Way to Repay; most credit cards I know of don’t have this guarantee built into them. They are only guaranteed by your future income but your future income is only guaranteed to the point that you have sufficient income. Lose your income and you have no guarantee there for it’s not a “Guaranteed Way to Repay.” Credit Cards are not secured by any real property which is why credit cards are referred to as unsecured debt.

I only have one more point to make regarding using any form of debt in your day-to-day life. This one though is intangible and hard to quantify with numbers. The feelings & emotions people feel around having debt in general. In several of my posts I’ve shared the experience others have had with their own personal battles with debt. Here are a few of those quotes:

Being away from my family at night is one of most difficult things I’ve had to do.  When I look into my kids eyes though, I know it will be worth it.  - Jeff, Deliver Away Debt

and I think of all our family can do with our money when he comes home. Things like a family vacation paid for with actual money. Out of our checking account and not on credit cards. Amazing.  - Military Mom, Deployment Money

he called me the day after our discussion and let me know he cleaned out his wallet to make room for some cash instead. 8 days later he’s still on the wagon as he puts it. I told him he sounds like a recovering crack head, he said that’s about how he feels.  - Mark, 8-days Clean

Now that I’ve laid all this out there for you I want to finish with the thought that you’re all big boys and you can make your own big boy decisions about your finances but that’s my $.02

Part 2.

Living without credit cards (the how)

Once I decided I was no longer going to depend on credit cards as a way of making purchases I needed to come up with another option that would allow me to make all the purchases I needed to without cramping my style too much.

There were a couple issues I took consideration before I got rid of all my cards. How was I going to have access to my money anytime & anywhere?  Second how can you function without a credit card, especially since I travel a bit and my wife almost is never carrying much cash? Here is what I came up with and so far it has worked flawlessly for us.

The first thing I did was create a place to stash the money. Since I wanted to have access to this money with the same ease as using a credit card I went for an account with a debit card. I opened a high interest free checking account at a local credit union. This is not the same place we have our primary checking account we use for everyday expenses though. I chose a different bank for our emergency savings for two reasons. One, I wanted to make sure the debit cards we were issued were Mastercard card since our primary debit cards were Visa. Two, I wanted to be linked to a different banking system. Both of these reasons were to ensure that I always had access to money if either Mastercard or Visa had problems or if either of the banks were having technical problems for one reason or another. After working with a credit card fraud team for some time and on the back end of a couple e-commerce websites I realized how inconvenient those issues are and how easily they can arise through no actions of your own. So far to date I haven’t had any issues getting access to my money. 

Now that we had a place to stash the money it was time to actually put some money in there. I first opened the account with $1200 we had set aside in our regular savings account. Now that I was going to only rely on this money instead of relying on this money and credit to get by I know I needed to add to this account as quickly as possible. So for a few months any money we could manage to pull out of our budget went directly into that saving account. At the time I was also working a second job to help knock out our debts too, so any money I made there went into this account as soon as we got a hold of it. This all quickly added up to several thousand dollars and now there’s even more. The funny thing is there is more money in there now than I ever had available on my credit cards.   

This new account was only to be used for an emergency and we BOTH had to agree this was an emergency. Since our marriage is based on trust and shared goals there is no issue with us both having easy access to the money. We trusted each other not to let the other down. Plus if either of us was going to screw this up it was probably going to be me.       

So at this point the only thing left to do is stick to our plan. To date we’ve not had any issues that have made me second guess this plan. We’ve traveled, we’ve rented several cars, we’ve bought things over the internet, basically we’ve have done most everything everybody swears they need a credit card but have done it with a debit card. If somebody were to steal my money or I have to disagree with a transaction (both of which I’ve had happen btw) I just grab my other debit card and put gas in the car just like you would with a credit card but without needing to pay it back next month.

To sum it all up….

1. We have more money available; like I said we have more in the account than we ever had available on our cards.
2. We now earn interest, not a lot but it is adding up. True we didn’t set this money aside for growth but it is a nice bonus to the deal.
3. We’re never owe anybody at the end of the month and if something were to self destruct in our financial lives we won’t be borrowing money at the exact time it gets most difficult to pay it back.
4. We have no need to use credit cards and no need to deal with the card companies – I don’t have any personal credit card horror stories but I sure don’t want to start any

People wonder how I can function without a credit card….I wonder why they can’t?

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Of course to make the Magic Month work for you I advise that like a true FinancialFreak you plan for this well in advance. Work these extra funds into your budget prior to getting that fat fist full of cash and take advantage of this magical windfall instead of letting it wander out of your life. No matter what your present financial situation is you can pay down some debts, shore up your big fat emergency fund, lock it away towards one of your savings goals, and maybe even blow a reasonable amount of it.

*Note I said blow a reasonable amount! As always let’s plan ahead, be responsible, have a little fun and make Mr. Financio proud. Remember we’ll likely have this same talk again in a few months so with a little discipline maybe it will be more talk about fun and less about paying debts!

I was thinking about this the other day when I heard two ladies complaining about their money issues while they were sitting in Starbucks drinking two $4-ish cups of coffee. You can‘t really complain about not having enough for retirement while you’re sucking down eight bucks worth of coffee (well you can but no one will really care). Even worse I went to lunch recently with a friend who was complaining about how he was broke. That’s not the annoying part though; the annoying part was that he was complaining about being broke while we were driving in his $46,000 Lexus GS350.

My point here is that in both of these cases these people were likely thinking more short term than long term or their problems really weren’t as much of a concern as they were saying it was. Either way I’m fine with it, it’s not my money they’re spending. Though this is something I think about from time to time when I’m making spending and saving decisions. Remember you only get so much money into your life. If you don’t believe me ask an older person I’m sure they’ll tell you what they think about it the idea of infinite money. Ask them if they’d take a do-over if they had the chance. Ask them if they would make spending and saving decisions differently if they could.   

So the next time you hit “4-bucks” to grab a mocha or stop by the Lexus dealer to browse think about the fact that you only get so much money between now and the end of this road trip and consider how your decisions today may fit in and affect your life a little further down the road. If you’re okay with it at that point so am I just don’t take me to Starbucks in your new Lexus and complain about how your broke because I likely won’t care too much at that point. Don’t worry though….I’ll still let you buy my coffee

Now, I always have some cash in my pocket, especially since I refuse to use credit cards anymore, but I sure as heck don’t have $3000 in my pocket very often. Since the thought of having my very own fist full of $100’s sounded so exhilerating I figured I’d give this big shot technique a try and see how it worked for me. This sounded like a logical experiment so shortly after meeting Fist-full-of-100’s Guy I withdrew my entire starter emergency fund of just over $1500.00 rolled it up and stuffed it in my front pocket. After leaving the ATM I headed over to Starbucks to meet up with a friend.  I was excited just thinking about the moment I’d get to whip that wad out of my pocket and say “I got this one.” Just like Fist-full-of-100’s Guy had done a few nights before.  So without hesitation as soon as he placed his order BAMM! The fat wad was out of my pocket and a smile was on my face. The only problem was I looked like a complete idiot bustin’ out $1500 to buy two cups of coffee. 

And sure enough the barista saw right through me. With a smirk on her face and a smart little attitude she said “Is that all you have?” Ouch! I was busted by a 17 year old coffee pusher! 

So I did my best to play it off all FinancialFreak cool and said “Why, how much do the other guys usually tip?”

All in all it was a lame experiment to roll like a big-shot but in the end I came out looking more like Al Bundy than Al Capone

How much cash do you usually carry in your pockets?

Young people knows how to run fast but old people knows the way   -unknown

A survey of over a of over 1100 people ages 62-75 were posed a retirement question that only they have the experience necessary to answer. No matter how many finance blogs or books you’ve read, and no matter how many classes you’ve taken…nothing you have done to date, unless you‘re retired, will give you the experience and life lessons required to answer the following question:

If you could turn back time how would you have planned differently for retirement?

56% would have started saving earlier  

39% would have allocated more money towards retirement

27% would put money into safer investments

7% would put more into riskier investments

5% would have used a professional advisor

I found the results interesting because the two biggest I shoulda’s were behavior based mistakes and not really what I’d call investment mistakes. The two biggest mulligans they would take had little to nothing to do with investment proficiency and everything to do with the actual task of just getting the retirement savings in place and growing. So I’m thinking no matter what your situation may be right now it’s a good time to get about the business of putting yourself into a position where you can take the advice of these old timers and get things moving for your future. Imagine if you not only were able to run fast but you also knew the way.

So now that you know what the people “living the dream” have to say about their retirement savings what steps are you going to take to heed their advice? Or are you going to look back in a few years and repeat these same survey answers to the next crowd?  

Source: Harris Interactive and Financial Freedom Senior Funding survey of 1,140 seniors age 62-75

3 jobs that will keep you paid and cool

and no…that’s not me in the maid’s outfit

 The blogger posts about how he wanted to buy the Weber E-310 BBQ which sells for close to $800 – a pretty sweet BBQ which he’d been saving for. He then goes on to say he made a better purchase and settled for a Char-Broil BBQ for a little less than $400 – again good job, you did some homework and saved some cash.

Here is what made me say what you were thinking…

The next post on the blog was titled “Housing Update: Short Sale, Foreclosure, etc.” I assumed this was a post about his opinions about the complicated housing market. Turns out this blogger has been trying to sell his house for more than 16 months and is currently on the verge of a foreclosure. Here’s a quote from his post:

Our savings is gone, our emergency fund is nil and I have cashed in about half of what little retirement we had put away. I am earning as much side income as I have time for and my wife babysits anywhere from one to five children (beside our own) everyday in order to make ends meet. At the moment, our credit is good and God has provided for our needs, but we are at the point where we are starting to incur major debt on behalf of this house.

So let me summarize here. He’s earning as much side income as he can, his wife is babysitting extra kids for money, he used his emergency and retirement funds to help weather the storm. If I were counseling this couple on their finances my advice to them would unquestionably be to spend the money they saved and invest in a new $400 BBQ. This is really the only option they have left to help prevent their family from being foreclosed on. If we were on the verge of foreclosure and I came home with a new $400 BBQ it would not be a pleasant conversation over freshly grilled steaks with my wife – who knows it might even be the last convesation we have as a couple!

My thoughts do go out to this family as nobody wants to go through a foreclosure….then my FinancialFreak mind kicked in and my thoughts quickly changed to “I wonder what sort of deal this guy will give me next month on his almost brand new $400 BBQ?” I better go back and bookmark that post!

Merge your money or separate the accounts – His money & Her money. This takes place, when for one reason or another, when a couple operates their finances separately from each other. In many of the cases where I’ve seen this I’ve noticed it is usually due to one of the people not wanting to bare themselves financially to the other person. They keep their money almost a secret from the other person. According to a USA Today article the FPA’s survey of financial planners nearly 55% of couples hide financial assets from one another. Hmm, I wonder what other secrets they might be keeping.

I think not coming together on your finances is often an easy way to allow people to close their eyes to the bigger picture and avoid the uncomfortable discussions that go along with shared finances. The funny thing is sometimes the processes some couples go through to keep their money separate are far more work and often more stressful than a shared approach (one person pays the cable bill and the other pays the phone bill and the vet bill – well it is her dog after all!). I even heard of one couple that would use the same credit card account then, at the end of the month, sit down and sort through all the receipts dividing up who owes how much for what then each write a check for their portion from seperate checking accounts – maybe I’m lazy but that seems like a lot of work!

In our house it’s our money, our bills, our debts, our budget, our goals, our successes and our failures. I think the biggest consequence of the separate money approach is the lack of a plan for the financial success of their family. Many couples who keep their money separate often avoid talking about difficult subjects like budgets, savings goals, and many non-life changing financial decisions they encounter in everyday spending. In my experience this slows down the progress to the goals they have since there’s less accountability with each other’s spending habits and usually they end up leaving money (sometimes a lot) to wander out of the couple’s life.

Sharing money and money goals in a relationship can help to build a stronger bond by eliminating barriers that may be building between the people involved.  This allows the couple to plan, dream, and work together as a team to accomplish goals and build trust that may not happen if they do not come together on all matters of the household.

And for those of you that are single and may be accountable to nobody I advise you get to work getting your finances organized and in good order too – believe it or not some people think that’s sexy!

What’s your take on shared vs. separate finances? How does your household function?